WHEN YOU’RE A MOM → YOU HAVE TO BE STRONG

How many new or even seasoned moms do I have on here that feel this crazy pressure to be the PERFECT MOTHER!

I know I do! Being a mom is the hardest yet most rewarding thing I have ever experienced. Society puts this pressure on moms that you have to run the household, love this new being, provide for this WHOLE HUMAN, any other humans you have created, your spouse, AND LASTLY yourself. There are so many things wrong with the idea that this is who you MUST become when you become a mom. First BEING A MOM IS FUCKING HARD! My postpartum depression hit me like a ton of bricks! I continue to have good days and bad days. I am blessed to have found that fitness keeps me sane. Fitness is my me time. My self care that is MUCH MUCH needed. Second why do we have to take care of ourselves last? Why isn't mother self care just as important as caring for the child(ren) we birthed? Why isn't it as important as cooking and caring for our spouse!

After having Rei I failed epically (or so I thought) in caring not only for my spouse, but myself because I was so worried about being this perfect mom and caring 1000% for my son. I literally forgot about caring for everything else! When I finally realized that there needed to be some sort of balance, and my son was loved, fed, happy and healthy I should be able to balance love and time for my spouse as well as love and time for myself. Fitness has been my key to a healthy mental state since the start of my postpartum journey. You are strong mama’s! DO NOT forget about yourself. LOVE yourself too! Your happiness and well-being will DIRECTLY affect the happiness and well-being of your child(ren) as well as your spouse! So DO NOT neglect your own personal health and wellness. As moms we are so good at hiding our pain and what we are going through to maintain this image of “needing to be wonder woman and have it all under control” We get good at hiding it simply to stay strong for our child(ren) and family. So good in fact that sometimes it's scary!

It is okay to have moments of weakness. It is okay to not be perfect. It is okay to give it your all and sometimes feel as though it isn't enough, because I promise you anything at all is enough for that beautiful child and your spouse. Don’t be so hard on yourself!

For those of you who know someone who recently had a baby, DO NOT ignore the signs. You NEVER know how they truly feel deep down inside. Some do not hide it well while others have PERFECTED hiding how hurt they are. You DO NOT know what they are going through internally. So be sure to call. Check in. Ask not only how the baby is doing but ask how THEY ARE DOING! MOMS STILL MATTER! Offer to watch the baby so they can take a nap, take a shower, eat, or even just poop in peace! Get them out of the house, encourage positive thinking and doing. Moms suffering, reach out to me I would LOVE to talk to you. Because just like you, I have been there. Caught in the vicious circle of trying to be perfect, hiding the hurt, and feeling like a failure! You are WORTHY. You are CAPABLE. And you MATTER! Never forget that!

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PEACE LOVE & HAPPINESS. LOVE THE SKIN YOU'RE IN. #BBTE